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I’m Taking A Few Steps Backward…

In 2016, I opened my eyes and realised I had woken up in supported-housing for drug addicts and alcoholics.

I had just came out of rehab after spending 6 months in therapy, and now I had to go into the Big Brother of the substance misuse community.

It really felt like I was moving backwards! 

It wasn’t easy to keep myself in these kind of environments in my early twenties, I can assure you!

By this time, I had already spent a year in prison and then the 6 months in rehab, so the last thing I wanted was to feel like I was still locked up.

But deep down, I knew I still had work to do, and if I started to run before I could walk, I could ruin it all.

So, I stayed in the small room in Portsmouth, living with some very challenging people!

3 months later, I saved up enough money for a deposit for a flat, and got some housing support from the council to pay the rent.

I moved into my small one bedroom flat for £500 a month where there were heroin-addicts in the hallway, and I barely had enough to pay the electric.

Still a very undesirable place to be, but I stuck it out, and continued to work on my recovery.

– I went to drug and alcohol meetings every single day.

– I read book after book on personal development.

– I started a college course in business.

– I started to research online about how I could help others.

After being clean and sober for a while, passing my college course, and starting to help people through my experiences….

People started to pay me for it, and I realised I had a business!

By this point, my recovery was strong, my brain was sharp, and I was ready to truly move forward.

Fast forward 2 years and I’m laying in an apartment in central London worth over a million pound, and I feel truly grateful I put myself in those environments.

You see, sometimes, it feels like you’re moving backwards…

When actually?

You’re just taking the time to build a solid foundation, so you can steam forward faster than ever before.

So if there is that step you want to take?

And it feels hard…

Don’t be afraid to take a few steps backwards, if you know it will allow you to take 10 steps forward after!

When I opened my eyes in 2016 in that supported-housing for drug-addicts and alcohols – yes, it felt like a nightmare….

But when I open my eyes to the view of the city every morning, I know that that nightmare was absolutely necessary so I would have the privilege of experiencing the dream I am living right now.

“Nobody ever said it would be easy; but, what they did say, was it would be worth it.” #Gratitude

I Wasn’t As Clever As Them

I used to look at successful people and think I was different from them.

I wasn’t as clever as them.

…motivated as them.

…talented as them.

They had a great life, money, and freedom to do what they wanted…

But that was for people like them.

Not people like me.

I was different.

I thought that even if I tried really hard, it still probably wouldn’t be enough…

Because I wasn’t enough.

So it made sense to not even bother in the first place.

But then I realised something that changed everything…

I was simply telling myself a story.

A lovely little story to keep me from pushing myself.

It was much easier to tell myself I was different, than it was to admit I had what it took to be successful.

Admitting I had what it took to be successful meant:

I had to make changes…

I had to challenge myself…

…and I had to work on myself and my future ever single.

And that seemed scary.

But I realised I needed to just try, and find out, once and for all.

…and see if I was ‘different’.

I decided to re-write that story, and tell myself that I could be successful.

I told myself I had no excuses, and if ‘they’ had it; then so could I.

Have you ever felt like this?

Different from others?

Telling yourself a story that you’re not good enough?

Somehow incapable of the same levels of success others have?

Well, let me tell you something…

I used to think I was different.

and I WAS!

I’m very different, but not in the way I thought.

Actually, I had talents, skills and abilities I never knew I had.

After admitting I had what it takes, stopping telling myself stories, and really starting to challenge myself?

I started to catch up with the ‘successful ones’ and even overtake some too.

So, if you think you’re different?

Maybe you are!

But for all the right reasons.

Believe me when I say this…

Those successful people you look at?

You don’t have what it takes to become like them.

You have what it takes to become someone a million times better.

 

I’ve Got My Shit Together These Days

A lot of people think I’ve got my shit together these days…

But the truth is, I still struggle with the way I feel about myself almost on a daily basis.

The problem is, I’ve spent so many years thinking I was bad, it’s hard to shift and accept that I am a good person with a lot of offer other people.

And then I find myself;

– Pushing people away that want to be my friend.

– Dismissing people who congratulate and compliment me.

– Not allowing myself to connect with people that don’t offer something tangible to my life.

I find myself thinking:

– I am actually still a bad egg, and don’t deserve: friends, connection, and to be appreciated.

– I would be such a bad friend so there is no point even trying to make them.

– I think nobody would really care about me anyway.

The result?

Yeah, I have excitement from seeing my life develop…

But also a feeling on loneliness, and a disappointing underlying desire for connection and love.

I can’t believe I can publically say things like this nowadays 🙈🤣

But every breakthrough I’ve ever had has been from owning my thinking and taking responsibility for the change I want to see.

Every now and again, I’ll feel connected to someone, and the love I’ve got to offer slips through and I get a reminder that I am a good guy who has so much to offer.

Whether this is from having unsupportive friends in the past, the bad relationship I had with my Dad or the bad things I’ve done in my life, I don’t know…

But I do know it’s kind of hard to shake!

For anyone else struggling with the way you feel about yourself, don’t worry I’m the same too; and I do this kind of stuff for a living!

We are all a work in progress and NOBODY completely has their shit together – believe me.

If I’ve ever pushed you away, ignored your compliment, or seemed distant – it’s because I’m still on a journey like everyone else.

So although, I’ve managed to get my shit together in a few areas of my life – that doesn’t mean I’m finished…

I’m still learning, exploring and developing on a daily basis.

But as long as I keep talking about it, and pushing myself, I know I’ll eventually shake this old thinking away for good.

Thanks for reading.

From Lewis ~ a good guy? 😳

Grow Up!

Grow up Lewis!

Someone said that to me this morning.

Bothered?

Nah.

Intrigued by their comment?

Very much so.

Who tells you that you should grow up?

Suppressed people!

Secretly, most people reminisce about their childhood years.

– Playing
– Smiling
– Laughing
– Learning
– Experimenting

A time where there were no worries, responsibilities, or pressure to be, do or have anything.

Just living life…

Openly.

Expressing themselves exactly how they wanted to.

Promising themselves that they’d never grow up and become one of the stiff, up-tight people who seemed miserable all the time.

Life was easy at this point of their life…

It was before the years of pain…

Before the rejection, humiliation and embarrassment that caused them to suppress their true self.

You see, we all want to be accepted by others.

To be accepted means we feel enough.

To feel enough means we must be loved.

… and we ALL want love. (Whether you admit it or not)

But here’s the thing…

Do you want to be accepted by many as someone you’re not?

Or would you prefer to be accepted by a few that know the real you?

The truth is…

I hope I never grow up.

I’m sensible sometimes, but often childish and silly.

I can add value to people’s lives sometimes, but also mess around and waste their time.

Now, whilst maturity is a sign of development, this certainly doesn’t mean we have to ‘grow up’ from a self-expression point of view.

…and in that case, I suggest more people grown down!

Remember the child that used to promise themselves they’d always be that happy care-free person.

And as Oscar Wilde says:

“Be yourself, because everyone else is already taken”

I’m Not The Person You Think I Am

I’m not the person you think I am…

You may think I work hard, value money, seek success, fame, and look like a tart posing on Instagram most of the time?

You’d be correct 🤣

However, there is more than meets the eye…

One of my highest values is freedom.

Whether that’s because of the cliche story I could tell you about being locked up in prison for a couple years of my life…

Or it’s just because I love adventure, uncertainty and new experiences…

I’m not sure.

All I know is whilst you may think I want to be hustling and grinding forever…

That’s not quite the case.

I love my work.

I love the hustle.

I love everything about it really.

But what I really want?

Is to be free.

Mentally: being able to think however I want, without self-doubt, self-sabotaging thoughts, limiting beliefs or any lack of confidence and drive that would stop me living the life I want to create.

Financially: being able to buy whatever I want, for whoever I want, and use the money as a resource to make big changes to things that will leave an impact on the world.

Physically: I want to use the freedom I’ve created both mentally and financially to travel the world. With no ties or obligations to anything, other than myself (and maybe a female🤞🏼) so I can experience things that bring perspective to life, and smile everyday knowing I am truly living life to the fullest.

That’s the person I really am.

But everyone needs a vehicle right?

A way of getting from A to B?

So next time you see me working long hours, making regular posts, uploading photos, and putting out the occasional offer…

You’ll understand my plan.

Freedom.

For me, that’s the ultimate goal.

You coming? 🗺

Right In Front Of Your Eyes

Imagine seeing it right in front of your eyes! 👀

You know that thing deep down you know you’re good at?

Or that change you know you can make?

Or the people you know you can help?

But the inner dialog you hear in your head is so loud it won’t allow you to admit it…

Let alone take the acrion to make it happen.

You wish one person would just believe in you first, so you can start to believe in yourself…

Well, guess what?

Whatever that thing is…

I believe in you.

I don’t care if you’re talented or a complete beginner…

I believe in you.

Hear those words.

Loud in your head.

Think about ‘that thing’ you’d love to allow yourself to do:

– A new career
– An adventure
– A hobby you used to love when you were younger
– A business you know you’d love
– A charity that would change everything

Hear it one more time.

I BELIVE IN YOU.

As cheesy as that may sound…

Its true…

Because I believe in human potential.

…and I have seen people do things that they never thought possible!

(I’m one of them)

Hear it one more time…

I believe in you.

Now think about that ‘thing’ you want to do one more time.

And tell yourself you’re ready to believe in yourself.

Because that?

Will be what will allow you to stop ‘thinking’ and start ‘doing’.

Then, you’ll have no choice to believe in yourself.

Because you won’t need to think about that buried ambition/dream/desire, deep down inside you…

Because you’ll see it for yourself…

Right in front of your eyes 👀

Yesterday’s Shower Isn’t Going To Keep You Clean Today

“Yesterday’s shower isn’t going to keep you clean today”

Someone said this to me in a Narcotics Anonymous meeting a few years ago.

I sniggered at him.

Little did I know he had just imprinted some value on me that now allows me to develop each and every area of my life!

At the time, I didn’t understand what he had said, so it was easier for me to just dismiss him, than it was to accept I didn’t understand.

But what did he mean?

The penny didn’t drop until a few months later.

I realised that he wasn’t referring to personal hygiene…

He was referring to the work I had done on my recovery had only kept me clean yesterday, but if I wanted to STAY clean, it was something I had to work on every day.

This doesn’t just apply to recovery…

The message he was sharing was one of avoiding complacency by taking daily, consistent, action.

Up until this point, I, as well as a number of people reading this today, have probably felt a burst of motivation running through them at some point.

– Maybe it was to get fit in January…

– Maybe it was an idea for the next million dollar App…

– Maybe it was to hire a coach and work on yourself…

Whatever it was:

– You got excited

– Took some steps toward.

– and then stopped.

You started to tell yourself all sorts of stories about how:

“you’ve done way more than you’ve ever done before”

Or

“how hard you’ve worked up until now”

Or

Start to point the finger at Julie from Pilates and John from the pub, and continue to justify your inaction by pointing out how little they have done.

But here’s the message of this post.

Regardless of what you’ve done up until now?

It’s gone.

In the past.

Finished.

The only thing we ever really have control over is the present…

What we do RIGHT NOW…

Today!

Because if you don’t?

– A day comes a week.
– A week becomes a month.
– A month becomes a year.

…and then you’re left explaining yourself to Julie from Pilates and John from the pub about how you haven’t done that ‘thing’ you said you were going to do.

I’ve been there…

Frustrated because I keep realised I am back at the starting line, after seemingly taking numerous steps forward…

But now I’ve changed that behaviour.

By taking daily, consistent, action…

Ensuring I influence my future, my what I do ‘today’.

So I thank the anonymous man at the Narcotics Anonymous meeting for sharing a valuable lesson with me.

Yesterday’s shower isn’t going to keep me clean today.

…and today’s actions are going to move me closer to where I want to be tomorrow.

Are you showering today?

P.s – sorry, I couldn’t resist with the picture 🤣

I pick my kind of people!

I pick my kind of people!

“Why are you so picky with the people you let into your life, Lewis?”

…a few people have asked me recently.

So, to answer the question:

I’ve got a confession to make…

I don’t let many people in.

– Friends…
– Girlfriends…
– Business colleges…

Ive been hurt before by people close to me, and this causes me to be hyper vigilant around the people I let get close to me.

That may seem protective…

YES! You’re damn right.

I am worth protecting.

My mind, my emotions, my feelings?

Are precious.

…and it’s okay to value yourself enough to decide who you let in.

Once you realise how much you’re worth, and how much you have to offer someone…

You are very selective of:

– Who you allow yourself to be influenced by.

– Who you spend your valuable time with.

If you feel yourself not aligned with somebody, they don’t give you the right vibe, or they make you feel bad about yourself more than they make you feel good…

It’s okay to respect yourself enough to say, “Nope. Sorry. No space for you here”.

It might be that they aren’t doing anything wrong most of the time, so it’s hard to detect – and they even have some great qualities.

But, humans are easily influenced.

We can absorb: looks, vibes, words and everything in between, very easily…

It’s doesn’t take much for someone to really affect your state of mind, and wellbeing.

This will impact your actions.

Which will impact your life!

The reality is, no matter how many positive things someone brings to the table:

– If you feel they don’t appreciate you.
– Don’t have the same values as you.
– Treat you in a way you’re unhappy with.
– Make you feel negative in ANY WAY.

Get them out, sooner rather than later…

As hard as it might be…

Why?

Because your future self will thank you for it.

There are a lovely selection of people amongst the 7 billion people that won’t treat you like that.

And as nice as these people might be sometimes…

Maybe, to you, they just aren’t YOUR kind of people.

And you deserve to be around only YOUR kind of people.

And If that’s picky…

Then I guess I’m picky.

I pick my kind of people 👊🏼

I DON’T wish you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!

I DON’T wish you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!

For most, Christmas and New Year is arguably the happiest time of the year.

Now, I’m sorry to break the fairytale – but it’s not necessarily anything magical…

You’re simply doing a cluster of things together that make you happy.

But we assume that it’s a time of the year that is the source of happiness, rather that the actual route of ‘why’ it makes us happy.

So, why are YOU happy this time of year?

Now this will be different for everyone.

HOWEVER…

If you take the take to work out what things are specifically making you happy, you can carry these things forwards and use them to make you happy every day, not just once a year.

🔸Is it the time off from work?

…maybe you could find a job you enjoy going to.

🔸Is it spending time with the people you love?

…maybe you could spend more time with people that you love.

🔸Is it the positive vibes from people spreading Christmas cheer?

…maybe you could surround yourself with people who give off these vibes all year round.

🔸Is it the happiness from your loved one from opening their presents?

…maybe you could show them acts of kindness and how much you love them all the time.

Because Christmas and New Year is great, but so many people live their entire life for these moments.

Working all year around for a one week holiday in the summer for example – when they could be building a life they don’t need to escape from.

Or this example, waiting until Christmas to do the things with their family they could be doing all year round.

The other problem is ‘wishing’ – I don’t want to wish you anything. “I wish you a merry Christmas”

No!

Wishing, is simply nice vibes and good intentions.

But intentions don’t necessarily achieve results.

Action is what will change things and allow you to create more happiness in your life.

So from me to you:

Enjoy Christmas…

Enjoy New Year…

… but make sure you enjoy the rest of your year too.

I challenge you to search for the things that make you happy, do more of those things, and chose daily happiness…

Not yearly.

I don’t ‘wish’ you a ‘merry Christmas’ and ‘happy New Year’.

I employ you to create yourself a merry and happy life.

Merry life guys! 😉

Lewis x

Share if you agree ❤️

I’m swapping fame, for creating IMPACT!

I’m swapping fame, for creating IMPACT!

I thought I wanted to be famous….

But actually I just wanted to be loved.

Shock!

I kind of knew this, but I chose to ignore it and go after it anyway.

But actually?

I don’t want to be famous for the sake of being famous.

I want to be famous for something.

For creating an impact.

For being of value to people.

For being great at something.

Now, I’ve got a talent…

Business and mindset.

I mean, jumping out of prison and changing my life, building businesses from scratch and helping others, probably demonstrates more talent than a pretty face or 2 mins of fame on a TV show.

I’m not saying I wouldn’t like the visibility on TV…

But seeking it, is distracting me from my purpose.

I believe I can see things, some find it hard to see.

I believe I understand things, some find it hard to understand.

And I TRULY believe that I can help people, when some feel helpless.

So, I’ve made a decision.

I will no longer seek fame from modelling or reality tv.

I’ll start serving people EVEN MORE.

I’ll start sharing my story EVEN MORE.

I’ll start adding value EVEN MORE.

And I’ll be EVEN MORE:

Motivating…

Educating…

Inspiring…

… and if that leads me to fame.

So be it.

But I now understand that I don’t need fame to feel significant and loved.

I can love myself, feel the love from others and take great pride in maybe helping others love themselves and their life too.

Bare with me guys, I’m doing a lot of learning recently!

…and although I help people on their journey…

It doesn’t mean I am not on my own journey too!

I will KEEP pushing forward harder than ever.

I’ve got a mark to leave!

Time to swap fame for creating impact in 2019!

Watch this space 🚀