In 2016, I opened my eyes and realised I had woken up in supported-housing for drug addicts and alcoholics. I had just came out of rehab after spending 6 months in therapy, and now I had to go into the Big Brother of the substance misuse community. It really felt like I was moving backwards! It wasn’t easy to keep myself in these kind of environments in my early twenties, I can assure you! By
I used to look at successful people and think I was different from them. I wasn’t as clever as them. …motivated as them. …talented as them. They had a great life, money, and freedom to do what they wanted… But that was for people like them. Not people like me. I was different. I thought that even if I tried really hard, it still probably wouldn’t be enough… Because I wasn’t enough. So it made
A lot of people think I’ve got my shit together these days… But the truth is, I still struggle with the way I feel about myself almost on a daily basis. The problem is, I’ve spent so many years thinking I was bad, it’s hard to shift and accept that I am a good person with a lot of offer other people. And then I find myself; – Pushing people away that want to be
Grow up Lewis! Someone said that to me this morning. Bothered? Nah. Intrigued by their comment? Very much so. Who tells you that you should grow up? Suppressed people! Secretly, most people reminisce about their childhood years. – Playing – Smiling – Laughing – Learning – Experimenting A time where there were no worries, responsibilities, or pressure to be, do or have anything. Just living life… Openly. Expressing themselves exactly how they wanted to. Promising
I’m not the person you think I am… You may think I work hard, value money, seek success, fame, and look like a tart posing on Instagram most of the time? You’d be correct 🤣 However, there is more than meets the eye… One of my highest values is freedom. Whether that’s because of the cliche story I could tell you about being locked up in prison for a couple years of my life… Or it’s
Imagine seeing it right in front of your eyes! 👀 You know that thing deep down you know you’re good at? Or that change you know you can make? Or the people you know you can help? But the inner dialog you hear in your head is so loud it won’t allow you to admit it… Let alone take the acrion to make it happen. You wish one person would just believe in you first, so
“Yesterday’s shower isn’t going to keep you clean today” Someone said this to me in a Narcotics Anonymous meeting a few years ago. I sniggered at him. Little did I know he had just imprinted some value on me that now allows me to develop each and every area of my life! At the time, I didn’t understand what he had said, so it was easier for me to just dismiss him, than it was
I pick my kind of people! “Why are you so picky with the people you let into your life, Lewis?” …a few people have asked me recently. So, to answer the question: I’ve got a confession to make… I don’t let many people in. – Friends… – Girlfriends… – Business colleges… Ive been hurt before by people close to me, and this causes me to be hyper vigilant around the people I let get close
I DON’T wish you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year! For most, Christmas and New Year is arguably the happiest time of the year. Now, I’m sorry to break the fairytale – but it’s not necessarily anything magical… You’re simply doing a cluster of things together that make you happy. But we assume that it’s a time of the year that is the source of happiness, rather that the actual route of ‘why’
I’m swapping fame, for creating IMPACT! I thought I wanted to be famous…. But actually I just wanted to be loved. Shock! I kind of knew this, but I chose to ignore it and go after it anyway. But actually? I don’t want to be famous for the sake of being famous. I want to be famous for something. For creating an impact. For being of value to people. For being great at something. Now,
You need to start being realistic! How many time have you heard that statement? A lot? I know I have… It happens all the time. People have a vision… a goal… a fantasy… They get excited about it; and they’re right to! They’re dreaming of a better life. – more success – more happiness – a life where they can do the things they love But these dreams are often dismissed by society. People telling
I’ve got to be honest about something… I’m a fraud. I’ve still got a lot of work to do on myself. I’m laying in my hotel bed. It’s 6:30 and I’m wide awake. I went to Will Polston’s Personal Development event of the year this weekend. I went for networking… But I left with a breakthrough. Jairek Robbins spoke about: – Feeling enough… …and I knew deep down I didn’t feel it. – Having enough… …and I
You don’t have the resources to be successful! You don’t have the money to start or grow a business…. You don’t have the time to dedicate to working on yourself… You don’t have the knowledge, experience and skills needed to be good at something you’d love to do… That’s what you keep telling yourself anyway, isn’t it? It’s easier to look at our goals and justify why we haven’t hit them by looking at all
YOUR KIDS AREN’T THE PRIORITY! Parents… How many times a day do you catch yourself putting your kids above yourself? Or maybe it’s your partner? Or your dog that’s your priority… Like my little friend in the picture. But, why isn’t it you that’s the priority? So many people think that in order to care for someone else they need to put themselves at the bottom of the pecking order. But the truth? It’s not
I’ve fucked up; so I’m giving up! Ever done that? Easily done isn’t it! We can sometimes sabotage EVERYTHING we’ve done because we’ve not got the perfect result we were looking for straight away. But here is the thing… You’re mistakes don’t define you… Well, actually they do, but not in the way you’re thinking of… You may be thinking; – I’m a failure – I’m no good – I’m useless But actually, the reason
Why is my life so hard?!? I can’t begin to tell you how many times in my life I’ve asked this question… The thing is, in life, there are going to be situations that are ’hard’. You know what I’m talking about. Problems that you wish would just go away. And sometimes, it might seem worse than just hard. Sometimes, there are situations that are so hard that you don’t think you will ever recover.
You’re alive ’temporarily’. Let that sink in. The world has existed before you were here, and will continue on after you leave. Eventually, all of us, even the greats, will be forgotten about. We’re here for a microscopic amount of time. But yet I feel some people forget that. – Watching TV all evening – Working long hours in jobs they don’t like – Staying in toxic relationships All whilst; – Ignoring their dreams –
“They’ll see straight through me”, A line that I heard in my head over and over again. Whether it was writing my first blog post, trying to make my first sale, or approaching anything new, I was sure that everyone knew where I had come from, and saw my fears that I didn’t deserve any kind of success. No belief in myself, whatsoever. Just enough to get going, but not enough to build any real
RIGHT! That’s it! … here’s what I think about all this ‘Personal development malarky’ This picture? It’s me 10 years ago… but before we talk about me, let’s talk about you. Warren Buffet, one of the richest men on the planet, famous for making the best investments of all time, was once asked, “what is the best investment you can make? He replied, “The most important investment you can make is in yourself.” If you
It’s better to play it safe… BULLSHIT. Sorry, I had to say it. Careers? Relationships? Life choices? Without risk, there is no reward! I find it funny that just because we’ve heard something so many times, we assume it must be true. Don’t worry, I believed it all before too. It’s impossible to think anything else when we have the government, our parents, and likely very clever people – telling us to be sensible, play
MY THREE-STEP PROCESS TO STOP OTHER PEOPLE FUCKING UP YOUR LIFE. I see so many people who literally allow their entire life to be dictated by one person’s words. Really think about what I just said there… Some people allow their ENTIRE LIFE to be dictated by ONE PERSON’S WORDS. Entire life. One person’s words. A little out of balance, wouldn’t you say? I’ve seen it, and I’ve done it…. We pluck up the courage
You don’t matter! I don’t matter. None of it really does. In fact, everyone on the planet will be dead in 130 years. And then within a short time, we’ll be forgotten. And in more time after that, this entire civilisation will be forgotten. And you care about what she thinks of you? He thinks of you? What ‘they’ might say? What the fuck is judgment in 130 years when the whole planet is dead?
Haters are just scared shitless living in a vicious cycle of resentment. When one tells me I can’t do something these days, I genuinely just feel sorry for them for having such a closed mindset. Hate is actually a projection of their own self-doubt and insecurities, and it’s a clever way that their brain has used to defend a potential intrusion that may result in some challenging, fear-based activity, that directly contradicts their own beliefs.
“It’s greedy to make money; why don’t you donate it instead?” Morons say this. Why? Rather than using your resources volunteering or donating to good causes – and helping a limited number of people at one time. Why not invest your resources, whether it be money or time, creating wealth for yourself – and then use it to change the world, or at least help MORE people (including yourself by the way) Just a thought.
PROCRASTINATING MUCH???? Hmm… smells like fear to me! I have 4 simple questions you can ask yourself to work out why you’re not taking as much action as you’d like! 1. What are you currently procrastinating on? 2. What bullshit story are you telling yourself about why you aren’t taking action? A few examples: – I’m a perfectionist so I take my time? – I can’t be bothered? – This it too hard? – I’ll
Ever kick yourself for not doing something you promised you would? Then start to call yourself all sorts of names (which isn’t good in itself, but I’ll leave that for another day) We’ve all been there… “Fuck! I still haven’t done it!” Then… “I’m lazy.” “I don’t try hard enough.” “I don’t have any will power.” Ever said any of those things? Did you ever stop to think that it’s because you’re simply trying to
Being an entrepreneur is a lifestyle, not an occupation. It’s Sunday today, and I’m still making developments. Noticed I said ‘developments’, which is some other people’s equivalent of ‘work’. However, for me, it’s not work. It’s developing the things I want in life. I don’t feel obligated to do it. I want to. Now, although I am aware that balance is important in some areas of life. Entrepreneurship isn’t one of those things that needs
You are gifted! Do you realise that? There are things you find easy that others can’t even comprehend. There is a way about you that allows certain people to feel a certain way. There are skills and talents that you have that you are not using to the best of your ability. How do I know this? Because I was one of those people. I had things I knew I was good at, but I
It’s not always easy to ‘right’ a lifetime of ‘wrongs’. For lasting change to occur, changing one thing sometimes isn’t enough. Change sometimes requires a more aggressive attack from more than one angle. And that takes some work. For me? Some changes were instant, such as getting out of prison and moving away from all of my friends and family. Some changes were invisible, such as the way I felt about myself, and my whole
I wanted to share something with you this morning. It’s been so powerful to me, and my life, so I hope someone else takes something from it too. One of the biggest breakthroughs I ever had was so simple! I was sat in front of a Psychologist in prison, with my arms crossed, being as defensive as humanly possible, as usual. I had told him about my dream to go to university, but that I
Putting yourself first isn’t selfish! I hear this a lot. Like, a LOT. We pick up beliefs throughout our life; messages we’ve been given, things we’ve seen, heard, felt or experienced. From a young age, one of them is usually to share, help other people, be kind, give to others, etc… Sounds lovely doesn’t it? However, a lot of people get this skewed. They end up helping others so much, that they start to neglect
It’s weak to talk about your emotions! I thought that once. In fact; I was convinced of that once. It’s not just me either. A lot of people come to me with the same belief. You may agree. You may also think that nobody cares what you have to say, or that you can’t trust people. But let’s look at this: Emotions are natural. Thoughts are natural. Communicating with others is natural. Why do we
Imagine every time an opportunity presented itself to you, someone whispered straight into your ear and told you, “You’re useless and incapable of doing ANYTHING!”. Wouldn’t feel very nice for starters, would it? It would likely completely put you off taking advantage of the opportunity, too. Now, imagine that 50 times a day, everyday, for the whole of your life… Someone constantly putting you down, discouraging you from moving forward, and enforcing every negative belief
Lessons from Dan Meredith… “It’s got to be perfect, or I’m not doing it at all!” Although seemingly positive, that statement almost murdered my dreams. Luckily, after sitting down with Dan today for a 1:2:1 coaching session, I had the privilege of him telling me to shut the fuck up and listen: “Stop fucking around, over-thinking and just do it.” He’s right. Here’s the thing. Perfectionism doesn’t exist; It’s an illusion. Why strive for something that
“It wasn’t my fault, one thing led to another and before I knew it…. things just spiralled out of control!” Ever heard yourself say that? I seemed to say it a hell of lot a few years ago. The crazy thing is, I actually thought that was a valid excuse for all the ‘bad luck’ in my life. To a certain extent, I was right. I absolutely had lost control; but… it WAS my fault!
Are your dreams dead? Absolutely NOT! Whether you chose to remember it or not, there was a time when you wanted a HELL OF A LOT MORE than what you’re giving yourself now. What happened to that person? The person who dreamed big, felt unstoppable and who was prepared to fight for what they wanted out of life! Was it ‘someone’ that killed your dreams? Maybe they told you that you should do something more
Selfish people prevent you from taking risks! What mother has ever said: “Have a great day at school, sweetie – don’t forget to take a load of risks today!” None, right? When we are younger, loved ones often tell us to be careful and stay safe. Constant conditioning, preventing us from taking risks. Problem is; this doesn’t stay with us in our childhood. We carry these beliefs through with us our entire lives. Why is
What are you waiting for! Passionate people irritate me, here’s why… I speak to so many people that know exactly what they want to do with their life, and it’s so frustrating! I see the light spark up in their eyes when they tell me what they really want to do with their life. The thing that they actually want to spend their time doing. The thing that would make everything more enjoyable. The thing
I realised something that changed EVERYTHING!! I then knew exactly what I had to do. I was faced with two simple choices: Chain my dreams in the back of my mind, settle for less than I deserved, and suppress every idea or aspiration that came into my head. Explore what I really wanted, nurture my dreams, and take consistent action to make them a reality. Sounds like quite an easy decision to make, doesn’t
Someone called me a Lecturer yesterday; I almost crapped my pants with excitement. Of course, I’m not a Lecturer; but the fact that somebody thought I was, made it all so real that I’ve lost my reputation as a: violent thug, druggy, convict – to name a few. Thank you Highbury College for allowing me to present my talk, “It’s amazing what you can do in a year’, to the A level & Access students, yesterday. As
I truly believe that some of us were supposed to face challenges, endure painful circumstances and have to tackle extreme life adversity. We are now blessed with the roadmap of how to overcome these obstacles and the opportunity to help others do the same; or better yet, ensure they don’t face the obstacles in the first place. A Counsellor once told me a quote that has formed the foundations of how I am now able
Thought about committing to a goal, but haven’t had much luck? Are you ready to stop: messing around; procrastinating; waiting for the right moment; allowing fear to overwhelm your decisions, intellectualising; overthinking; doubting yourself; and any other negative thought process that has been holding you back in actually making a solid commitment? Here’s what you need to do: Explore Some people will often start a goal by merely doing something productive and ‘seeing how it
A little productivity win I wanted to share with you guys. Read to the end and tell me if you agree? Towards the end of last year I noticed a dip in my energy levels. To sort it out, first thing I tried was to get more sleep – averaging 8-9 hours a night. But actually, although counter-intuitive, I felt like I had LESS energy! Then, I tried to cut out coffee. I thought maybe
If you set yourself a task, with no end point, you’re basically telling your brain that you have to do that task indefinitely!