I love you, I am safe, I am happy, and I can take care of myself.
Imagine if that was your response to a friend or family member trying to interfere with your life?
– Rather than trying to make them understand…
– Rather than allowing yourself to hear their sabotaging opinions as you get deeper and deeper into their persuasive argument…
– Rather than starting to doubt yourself as you start to put weight on the opinion of the people you care about the most…
You simply tell them to stop.
And do your thing.
Live out your dreams.
Make your own choices.
… and really live life your way.
Firstly, let’s get clarity on what I am actually talking about:
I’m talking about your loved ones being your biggest critics.
Any idea you have, anything you try and make work, any interest you start to explore…
It’s the people closest to you who are the ones that start to change your mind!
– Not your haters.
– Not your competitors.
– Not online trolls!
… but your Mum, Dad, Wife, Husband, best friend, even your sweet old Gran!
“Ah, you won’t stick at that”
“That’s a bit risky isn’t it?”
“Are you sure you want to do that?”
“You will never be able to do that”
“Why don’t you do X, Y & Z instead”.
Sound familiar?
Well, guess what…
It’s not just you!
This is very normal.
The people closest to you, want to keep you in a protective bubble and are our biggest critics, the people who smash our dreams, put doubt in our heads and passively, manipulate us, and persuade us to give up.
Let me explain why:
– They doubt themselves and are projecting their own insecurities and doubts on to you (Basically because they don’t think they can do it; they assume you can’t too)
– They feel sad seeing you hurt and disappointed, so selfishly stop you from taking risks, so they don’t risk feeling sad.
– They have a different internal representation of the world (different beliefs, opinions, preferences – especially older people, as they grew up in a completely different world to the one we are in now) – so they simply do not understand.
– They are in protection mode. The unknown has a misconception of danger. Most people think they’re protecting people when stopping them from doing new things (when actually they’re doing the exact opposite).
The reality is, your Mum, Dad and Gran – are not mindset coaches; they do not understand the above.
They just react, speak, and completely sabotage YOUR life.
They must stop, immediately (If you want to live out YOUR life and what is important to YOU).
Or you’ll end up with the exact life they have.
If you don’t want the exact life they have?
You have to be firm and stand your ground.
Like I mentioned, you don’t need to persuade them.
You don’t need to argue with them.
You just tell them.
In fact, I’ve even written a draft of what you could say:
(This simple paragraph could change your future)
Ready?
………
Thank you for caring. I want you to know this means a lot to me. I can’t risk anything influencing me and stopping me from doing something that is important to me.
Can I ask you to keep your opinions to yourself, please?
I respect you and value you, but we are different people and your view is very different from mine. This is important to me, not you, which is why you don’t understand it.
I want you to know I’m happy, and regardless of the outcome, I’ll still be happy even attempting something that is important to me.
I love you, I am safe, I am happy, and I can take care of myself.
If you say that, you’ll step out of someone else’s protective bubble, and into your nest of freedom – like me in this picture haha!
PLEASE do what is important to YOU, not anybody else.
Stand your ground and tell people to stop influencing your mind.
Protect your thoughts.
… and protect your dreams.
They’re both worth protecting.
