July 2020 – Lewis Raymond Taylor

Find the Flow of Your Life

When we try to control things we resist the flow of life.

Yup, I’m feeling deep today, but this is important, so bear with me.

A lot of people think control is a good thing.

And in some situations, it can be, but most of the time it’s just self-imposed restriction.

By controlling things, we are resisting opportunities and new things coming into our lives.

This may be a surprise, but controlling people, are usually insecure and riddled with fear.

They’re trying to hold things in place for fear of what will happen if they lose their grip.

Believing that if they are not there to hold it together, something bad will happen!

But what if you were holding the grip of your current reality, and in the process, stopping something good in life from unfolding?

Beneath every control freak is a fear of letting go.

But it’s impossible to trust and control at the same time.

And it’s impossible to leap courageously and hold yourself stuck at the same time.

If you’re someone who finds themselves being a bit of a control freak; I get it – you feel you’re unsafe and you need control to feel supported.

However, you’re supported more than you think.

Life can be tough, but those moments are blips in comparison to the wonder it has to offer.

And you are very safe too!

Look around, nobody is coming for you, and no amount of control can stop unpleasant things happening sometimes.

The only thing in the way of allowing yourself to feel this support and knowing you’re safe is the belief that you are not.

So, rather than resisting, know you’re safe, let go of your need to control, and find the flow of your life.

Feed the Fear or Chill?

Feed the fear or chill?

That was the choice I had when things started getting a bit rocky in Bali a few months ago.

The UK government was urging all brits to fly home.

The Bali community was also hearing rumours of food shortage and societal breakdowns.

The UK media somehow leaked fake news of police on the beach with guns forcing everyone to lockdown.

Within weeks 95% of the population of Canggu, which a hub of tourism and expats, disappeared almost overnight.

It turns out that the majority of those people left Bali to fly back to countries with more risk of the virus and more severe sanctions, riots, and everything in between.

Meanwhile, Bali became a quieter, cleaner, and even more relaxing place than it was before!

Something I’ve learned over the last few years is that fear is the currency of control.

Fear can control and consume you, so don’t allow others to create fear in you.

Of course, be cautious, and make the best decision for you, but following the crowd usually doesn’t work, because ‘the crowd’ are often scared of most things – meaning ‘the crowd’ are controlled.

The people who fed into the fear and left Bali were unknowingly running into the line of fire back to countries with the highest death rate in the world, just because they were told to, or because everyone else was, whereas Bali, although seemingly unfamiliar and uncertain turned out to be more like a luxury 4-month private retreat!

So next time you feel yourself feeding into others’ fears, observe the masses, do the opposite, and decide not to allow fear to control you, and instead, make a conscious decision to chill instead.

You’re Not Something That Should Be Wasted

You are gifted.
Do you realise that?
There are things you find easy that others can’t even comprehend.
There is a way about you that allows certain people to feel a certain way.
There are skills and talents that you have that you are not using to the best of your ability.
How do I know this?
Because I was one of those people.
I had things I knew I was good at, but I didn’t see them as a gift.
I didn’t appreciate them.
In fact, I chose to completely ignore and dismiss them.
But why?
If someone gives you a gift.
What do you do with it?
You use it.
You appreciate it.
You make the most of it.
Not leave it:
Unused and Wasted.
So why is your life any different?
It’s not.
Don’t allow the impact you could create, the feeling you could give someone, or anything else that you could produce, be left:
Unused & Wasted.
You are gifted.
It’s up to you how you use that gift.
And if you’ve got a choice?
Which you have.
Why not use it?
You’re not something that should be wasted.